Journal

I Bought Something for Myself and It Changed Everything

A letter from Maren. I am going to tell you about a purchase I almost didn't make. It was a Tuesday afternoon. The kids were at school. I was sitting in the car in a parking lot scrolling my pho...

How to Feel Like Yourself Again Before You Feel Like a Lover

A letter from Maren. Before I could want Beckett again, I had to find myself again. That sounds like a greeting card. It is not. It was the hardest, loneliest work I have ever done inside a marri...

Why You Stopped Wanting - And Why It's Not What You Think

A letter from Maren. There was a season in our marriage when I stopped wanting. Not slowly. Not dramatically. Just quietly, the way a candle burns down and you don't notice until the room is dark...

The Erotic Power of Dirty Talk: A Couple's Guide to Talking Hot

A Couple's Guide to Talking Hot We used to think dirty talk had to be bold or explicit to be effective. We now know it can be quiet, personal, and deeply arousing when it comes from a place of tru...

The Thrill of the Edge: Exploring Edging for Intense Connection

Exploring Edging for Intense Connection and Climaxes We have discovered that the moments just before release can be some of the most powerful in intimacy. Edging. The practice of building arousal ...

When Desires Don't Align: What to Do When One of You Wants More

The most common struggle couples bring to us isn't affairs or boredom. It's this: one of you wants more physical connection than the other. Here's what we learned from our own bed.

The Art of the Slow Build

Beckett sent me a text at 11:14 on a Wednesday morning. By the time the kids were in bed, I had been thinking about him for eight hours. This is what we mean by the slow build.

Keeping Secrets vs. Maintaining Mystery: Finding the Balance in Your Relationship

Finding the Balance in Your Relationship We have always believed that trust and mystery can coexist beautifully. Secrets that hide important truths erode connection. Mystery that keeps a little wo...

Fireworks in the Bedroom: Celebrating Independence and Intimacy

Celebrating Independence and Intimacy This July 4th While the nation celebrates freedom with fireworks and cookouts, couples in the know mark July 4th with a different kind of liberation. The kind...

Destination Desire: A Couple's Guide to the World's Most Romantic Hidden Gems

A Couple's Guide to the World's Most Romantic Hidden Gems Forget the cliches. Real romance lives in the unexpected. Paris and the Maldives may make the postcards, but the most potent destinations ...