Journal

A Gentle Beginning: Where to Start When You Don't Know Where to Start

The first time we talked about buying something for the bedroom, we were sitting in the car outside a restaurant. Not because we planned it. Because the conversation had wandered there on its ow...

The Erotic Power of Dirty Talk: A Couple's Guide to Talking Hot

A Couple's Guide to Talking Hot We used to think dirty talk had to be bold or explicit to be effective. We now know it can be quiet, personal, and deeply arousing when it comes from a place of tru...

Beyond Solo Play: Integrating Sex Toys into Partnered Intimacy

Integrating Sex Toys into Partnered Intimacy We used to see toys as something for private moments. We now see them as another way we can play together. When we bring a toy into partnered intimacy,...

The Thrill of the Edge: Exploring Edging for Intense Connection

Exploring Edging for Intense Connection and Climaxes We have discovered that the moments just before release can be some of the most powerful in intimacy. Edging. The practice of building arousal ...

Don't Schedule Sex. Schedule Space Instead.

We tried scheduling sex for four months. Every Thursday night. It was dutiful. And dutiful is the enemy of desire. Here's what we do instead.

Ring of Pleasure: A Couple's Guide to Using Cock Rings

A Couple's Guide to Using Cock Rings for Enhanced Sensation We used to think cock rings were something only for him. We now see them as a shared tool that can change the entire experience for both...

Speaking Their Language: Bedroom Love Languages

He had lit candles. Put on music. Done everything right. And I felt nothing. Not because I didn't appreciate it. Because he was speaking his language. I needed mine.

The Five Senses Foreplay Challenge

We had fallen into a pattern. Same sequence. Same timing. Same everything. Then Beckett said something that stopped me: 'I think we've forgotten how to notice each other.'

When Desires Don't Align: What to Do When One of You Wants More

The most common struggle couples bring to us isn't affairs or boredom. It's this: one of you wants more physical connection than the other. Here's what we learned from our own bed.

More Than Slick: Understanding Lubricants and Playful Ways to Use Them Together

Understanding Lubricants and Playful Ways to Use Them Together We used to think of lubricant as something you reach for only when things feel dry. We now see it as a quiet partner in pleasure. Som...