Journal

When Intimacy Feels Like One More Thing on Your List

A letter from Maren. I need to confess something. There was a period in our marriage when Beckett would reach for me at night and my first thought was not desire or love or even annoyance. It was...

The Mental Load Doesn't Stop at the Bedroom Door

A letter from Maren. I want to tell you about a Tuesday night. Beckett had done the dishes. He'd put the kids down. He came into our room with that look. The one that used to make my stomach fli...

Why You Stopped Wanting - And Why It's Not What You Think

A letter from Maren. There was a season in our marriage when I stopped wanting. Not slowly. Not dramatically. Just quietly, the way a candle burns down and you don't notice until the room is dark...

Don't Schedule Sex. Schedule Space Instead.

We tried scheduling sex for four months. Every Thursday night. It was dutiful. And dutiful is the enemy of desire. Here's what we do instead.

Speaking Their Language: Bedroom Love Languages

He had lit candles. Put on music. Done everything right. And I felt nothing. Not because I didn't appreciate it. Because he was speaking his language. I needed mine.

When Desires Don't Align: What to Do When One of You Wants More

The most common struggle couples bring to us isn't affairs or boredom. It's this: one of you wants more physical connection than the other. Here's what we learned from our own bed.

How Seeking Help Renewed Our Spark: A Couple's Story

A Couple's Story of Therapy, Growth, and Coming Back Together We reached a point where we were stuck. The conversations felt repetitive. The distance felt familiar. We knew we loved each other, bu...

Rediscovering Playfulness: Fun and Flirty Date Night Ideas for Long-Term Couples

Fun and Flirty Date Night Ideas for Long-Term Couples We have learned that playfulness is not something you lose with time. It is something you have to choose to bring back. Long-term couples ofte...

Keeping Secrets vs. Maintaining Mystery: Finding the Balance in Your Relationship

Finding the Balance in Your Relationship We have always believed that trust and mystery can coexist beautifully. Secrets that hide important truths erode connection. Mystery that keeps a little wo...

How to Get Your Husband to Talk About Sex (and Actually Like It)

And Actually Like It We used to avoid the conversation. It felt awkward. Vulnerable. Sometimes even risky. Over time we realized that avoiding it was costing us closeness. Talking about sex does n...